Through all the readings there was an obvious common theme; standard selection. What passers-by pick and choose about you to attach you to a standard idea or belief; a social dogma in which they can either relate to or deny you. Lauren Martin writes about a situation at a queer women’s Institute, ‘The woman who crossed the room starts a conversation with Ari, and invites her to be a part of some radical Jewish get-together.’ After it is revealed that Martin is Jewish, the woman later invites her to the same group Martin was earlier specifically banned, ‘How can I express to her that her prior behavior has already made clear to me that I really would not feel welcome there?’ (Martin, 9)
Each reading is specifically designed to express the gaps in social mores in which a person not specifically designated to seems to fall, ‘at least not WASP.’ (Martin, 6) Each woman speaks about their different encounters in random parts of the United States (and some mention other countries), but register that the term ‘United’ isn’t necessarily how they perceive their interactions among the communities. Even their friends can’t seem to get past a certain persona, and suggest surprise at a different side the writers expose.

I have a link, which the embedding is enabled, but I'll post that link, because I think it really describes not being able to fit into a mold. Mostly, it talks about andgrogyny. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sBCMKmCn0g4&feature=related

The video you can really see is just about homophobic stereotypes. Tim Hardaway's reaction to having a gay teammate. ESPN.